Dating should be exciting, but your safety should always come first.
At VettedMatches, we believe that trust should be earned, not assumed. Our vetting and verification process is designed to give you greater confidence, but no dating platform can remove every risk. You still need to use your judgement.
Before You Meet
- Tell someone you trust where you are going, who you are meeting and what time you expect to be back.
- Consider sharing your live location with a trusted friend or family member.
- Keep your phone fully charged and make sure you have enough battery to make a call or access your location.
- Arrange your own transport. Do not accept a lift in a car from someone you have only recently met.
- Meet in a busy, public place and avoid secluded locations for your first few dates.
- If you want extra reassurance, take someone with you. They don’t have to sit with you or be part of the date. They can simply stay nearby and keep an eye on things.
- Consider agreeing a check-in time with someone you trust so they know when to expect to hear from you.
Protect Yourself
- Never leave your drink unattended and don’t accept drinks from someone if you are uncomfortable doing so.
- Keep an eye on your drink throughout the date.
- Be aware of the possibility of drink spiking and trust your instincts if something doesn’t feel right.
- Keep your belongings and personal information secure.
- Don’t feel pressured to reveal your home address, financial information or other sensitive details.
- If something doesn’t feel right, leave. You don’t owe anyone an explanation.
- Remember that you can change your mind at any point. Agreeing to meet someone does not mean you owe them anything.
Consider a Clare’s Law Check
In England and Wales, the Domestic Violence Disclosure Scheme (Clare’s Law) allows you to ask the police whether a current or former partner has a history of violence or abuse that may indicate you are at risk.
You can make a request yourself, or someone concerned about your safety can make one on your behalf. The police assess the circumstances and decide whether information can lawfully be disclosed.
If you have concerns about someone’s behaviour or history, don’t ignore them. Ask the police for advice.
What Our Vetting Can — and Cannot — Tell You
VettedMatches takes vetting and verification seriously. Where required, we may use checks such as DBS verification as part of our vetting process.
However, a DBS check is a snapshot of information available at a particular point in time. It cannot predict someone’s future behaviour, and it cannot guarantee that a person will never pose a risk.
That is why safety doesn’t end when someone passes our vetting process.
We Work With Consent and Shared Responsibility
VettedMatches works with consent, communication and shared responsibility.
If you ever feel threatened, uncomfortable, pressured or believe that something isn’t right, tell us.
You have a responsibility to look after your own safety, but you do not have to deal with a concerning situation alone. Contact our team and tell us what has happened. Where appropriate, we can take action in accordance with our safeguarding procedures and Professional Standards.
Equally, if you become aware of information that you believe could put another member at risk, please report it to us.
Most Importantly: Use Your Head, Not Your Heart
Someone can appear genuine, charming and trustworthy — and you can still take sensible precautions.
Don’t let excitement override your instincts.
If something feels wrong, slow things down. If it doesn’t feel right, walk away.
Your safety matters more than a date.
Vetting gives you greater confidence. It does not replace your judgement.
Use our safeguards. Use your instincts. Speak up when something doesn’t feel right.
Use Your Head, Not Your Heart.
VettedMatches.com — Putting Safety Before Profit.